I've been here 3 days, and things are already uncomfortable! I was hoping this wouldn't be any kind of repeat of past negative experiences, but I have a list for you! Start off with it turns out that my host has an outdate profile, so there's nothing about AirBnB hosting, or a partner or anything on there. I get here and I'm with 6 cis men! 3 I have frequent contact with, because they are in bedrooms and I'm in the living room. All 3 of them white, cis; 2 bros. My host, his partner, and another cis het man are in the duplex apartment upstairs. I don't see them as much, but on my first time meeting the one that's usually gone he tries to hook up with me in the most lazy, entitled, uninvested way!
And, AirBnB people are the last people trying to be communal. I've done good, so far with a little money, and they've given me some food. The host also serves breakfast, so I'm not gonna starve but this shouldn't be so hard. I'll skip the rant about people in poverty needing to work together in community and communal efforts to help end poverty, but know that there's a rant there!
The host I'm with can talk forever, and I'm more ok with that than I am this deprecating attitude towards body mods. I'll admit I went a long with society on some of that shit, but if I'm going to call myself pro-choice that means PRO ALL THE CHOICES! Full bodily autonomy ARE GO!
On the good side, I was in the gayberhood. I didn't have to talk to my host if I didn't want to (and I usually didn't). My host also did breakfast! I had all the basics: washer/dry, full bathroom, wifi, etc. We left vague reviews for each other, I can't suggest any black/ brown femme queers stay with this person, because he's completely insensitive to racial issues, and is one of those white cis gay men that erases black trans people from the movement, and doesn't have respect for femmes. If you're heading to St. Louis I'll give you his name so you can avoid him, upon asking.
I haven't heard back from the person that said they were going to help me with Chattanooga, but Im fine with that. I will sit downtown and fly a sign for a bus ticket out of there as soon as possible. The drama in Memphis could have been avoided. My host in Nashville had animals using the house as a bathroom. People have claimed to read my profile and still misgendered me. My staying situations in TN have not been worth coming down here to visit. But, I don't regrets having this experience, and I now know that TN is fucking garbage!
Hello brave beautiful world,
It is I, Papyrus! It is great to be back on the road after so long! It took
a while to shake off the dust and snow, but I'm here and I'm proud! I've
been a few places before making this blog, letting myself fall behind, but
it's better late than never!
There's a lot different in this round of travels, from last time. One
resource that I have that I didn't have before is a lot more friends
willing to show a lot of kindness to help me out. A lot of favors to pay
back and a lot to pay forward. I may as well move out to a farm and work
for free for a year to pay all of this Universal debt I've accumulated, and
my travels aren't even over yet!
Starting from the beginning: after working things out with a new sublet, I
headed down to St Louis, Missouri. The person that stayed with was
something I would describe as generous, but not kind. I had a flexible
place to stay, people willing to show me around, and even breakfast! This
person was also an Airbnb host so there were a lot of accommodations
already set up. On the other hand I was sharing a space with three
heterosexual cisgender run of the Mill privileged white men. My initial
Health was also one of those gay cisgender men that was okay with eracing
trans black people from the movement. There was even a situation with an
Airbnb guest to wear my host assumed that I would have sexual contact with
his immature Airbnb guest. Of course I reported the host, but Couchsurfing
doesn't care. They gave me the dismissive "write a review describing the
situation and let the couch surfing Community judge from there". As if they
have any right to make suggestions about a situation that they aren't
willing to investigate, themselves. I'm going to do this my own way! I'm
very happy to be safely out of that toxic situation.
Next is Memphis, Tennessee: things seem to be explained a lot better than
they actually were. I stayed with someone who is still staying with one of
their parents in heavy clutter and 2 cats. Netflix and Wi-Fi made that
situation more bearable, but for where I was I couldn't go anywhere and I
didn't see much. But that's more because there wasn't much to see. Memphis
is in terrible shape due to the powers-that-be, and is in dire need of a
more organized and civilized counterculture and subculture Community to
fight the corrupt government. With the situation of having a place to stay,
the parents patience was running dry and the other people that offered had
to drop out for various personal reasons. We tried to get me into a place
with someone that neither of us knew and I ended up getting stranded. I
will take responsibility in my part, with the overall issue between all
parties being a very heavy lack of communication. Not being ashamed to ask
for help, I reached out and my friends reached back. I got a hostel room
for two nights and my ticket to Nashville!
The hostel situation was better then what the situation would have been
with staying with the person. They said I had to come to work with them.
Not "you have to leave the house while I'm not here". They specifically
said I would have to come to work with them, as if they would need to keep
an eye on me all day or something. I've been in plenty of situations where
the person I'm staying with would rather I not be in the house while they
aren't there for a long period of time, and I get where that's coming from
but there's no reason why a person should have to go exactly where the host
With the hostel, it was an emergency situation in the office was about to
close. A friend paid for me over the phone with a card and they said that I
could only stay one night, because they didn't want to set the example that
this kind of thing was okay. Apparently paying with a card or letting
someone in just before they close is just too much of a hassle. The next
day, I got more money for another hostel night and I didn't tell the new
staff who I was and paid with my own card. I introduced myself to someone
else, and sure enough a different staff member asked me about the
situation. I know I wasn't supposed to come back, so I should be counting
my lucky stars that they didn't kick me out. At the same time, it doesn't
make sense as long as the money is paid. However, I won't be surprised if
I'm not allowed back into that hostel because I kind of lied or at least
didn't tell the whole truth to be able to come back when I know I wasn't
supposed to. The hostel was decent, they provided a do-it-yourself
breakfast, and I met another traveler who is kind of arrogant but whatever.
And, you know I wrote a review. After all that drama I don't plan on
returning to Memphis anytime soon. Really, I wasn't supposed to go there in
the first place. I remembered Memphis by its Greyhound station but I got
the Greyhound station in Memphis and somewhere else mixed up. The only
reason why I want to go to Memphis is because I thought it was another
place that looked more aesthetically pleasing.
I'm going to let Nashville be its own entry, so I'll see you again soon!